Don't Try to Change Your Spouse
When people get married, the wife thinks she will change her husband, and the husband thinks his wife will never change.
When your mate fails to live up to your expectations, the knee-jerk reaction is to try to change them. This is usually attempted through manipulation, criticism, yelling, and anger. We think, "If I yell at her, then she'll love me the way I want to be loved." It's pretty stupid, but we all try it. But this never works.
The truth is that God has not called you to change your mate. God has called you to obey Him. He has called you to change yourself by growing more and more like Christ. From now on, focus on obeying God, and let God change your spouse.
Reacting to your spouse is called mirroring. You are allowing them to dictate your attitude and behavior. You are letting your spouse control you. Don't do that. Instead, let God control you. Rather than reacting to your mate, focus on obeying God.
In the end, by focusing on obeying God rather than changing your spouse will make you happier and more attractive, and it will inspire your spouse to grow.
The Bible says to conquer evil with good (Rm 12:20-21). This means to respond to your spouse's evil with goodness. This causes them to feel convicted to change. But when you return evil for evil, your spouse feels justified for treating you badly.
Don't try to change your spouse. Obey God, and let God change them.
When your mate fails to live up to your expectations, the knee-jerk reaction is to try to change them. This is usually attempted through manipulation, criticism, yelling, and anger. We think, "If I yell at her, then she'll love me the way I want to be loved." It's pretty stupid, but we all try it. But this never works.
The truth is that God has not called you to change your mate. God has called you to obey Him. He has called you to change yourself by growing more and more like Christ. From now on, focus on obeying God, and let God change your spouse.
Reacting to your spouse is called mirroring. You are allowing them to dictate your attitude and behavior. You are letting your spouse control you. Don't do that. Instead, let God control you. Rather than reacting to your mate, focus on obeying God.
In the end, by focusing on obeying God rather than changing your spouse will make you happier and more attractive, and it will inspire your spouse to grow.
The Bible says to conquer evil with good (Rm 12:20-21). This means to respond to your spouse's evil with goodness. This causes them to feel convicted to change. But when you return evil for evil, your spouse feels justified for treating you badly.
Don't try to change your spouse. Obey God, and let God change them.
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