Saturday, August 30, 2014

2 Destructive Parenting Myths

One of my coworkers was homeschooled.  As well, he didn't participate in any organized sports growing up.  And you know what?  He is one of the hardest-working, kindest, most honest people I know.  Great social skills.  Great sense of humor.  Humble.  Easy-going.  Everything you would want in a co-worker.  Surprise, surprise!

Here's the point.  Parents, there are some very silly, yet very destructive and popular myths that can screw up your family.  Be sure you don't fall for these lies. 

  • Myth #1:  Homeschooling will cause your kids to be social retards.
I've never met a homeschooler who was socially handicapped.  Never.  In fact, they always impress me.  I would say they are different, but that's not a bad thing.  They seem to be less corrupted by the world, less concerned with fitting in and being "cool."  They always seem to be more selfless, more humble, and wiser and happier.  In other words, socially (and usually spiritually) advanced.  On the flip side, I have met many public and private schoolers who were socially inept.  MANY!
  • Myth #2:  Putting your kid in sports (or dance, piano, etc.) will help them develop winning character.
For many in our society, sports is the new savior.  Many in the lower-income community look to sports as the only way out of poverty.  What ever happened to making good grades and working hard?  Many parents are convinced that if they get their kids in sports, it will teach them strong character and keep them out of trouble.  That's what parents used to think about church.  Jesus didn't play organized sports as a kid.  The apostles didn't play peewee football.  Moses wasn't on a select soccer team.  The founding fathers of our nation didn't play organized sports as kids.  Most of the greatest people in history didn't play organized sports.  The Bible doesn't teach us to play sports to develop Christlike character.  Nor does it teach parenting through sports participation.

Bottom line, if you want your kid to play sports and attend school outside of home, that's fine.  That's your decision as a parent.  But don't think that they need those institutions and activities for character and social development.  There's simply no truth to that.  In fact, they may pick up more negative than positive through their participation in these things. 

What they do need is for Dad and Mom to set a godly example, get active and intentional about discipling them, and build a close, loving relationship with them.