How to Lead Your Wife
Ephesians 5:22-23 says, “22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord, 23 because the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body.”
The husband is the head, or the leader of his wife and family.
What does it mean that the husband is the leader? It means two things.
THE TWO ASPECTS OF HEADSHIP
1) The husband has the final say in all decisions.
God has delegated His authority to the husband to have the final say in all decisions. This is why the Bible commands wives to submit to their husbands in everything, as to the Lord. Obviously the wife should not submit if the husband is leading her to do something unbiblical. But in general, the husband has the final say in all decisions.
Now this doesn’t mean that the husband should make all decisions alone. Only a foolish leader would believe that. You should seek out your wife’s needs, desires, and input on every decision. Two heads are better than one.
As well, this doesn’t mean that the husband gets to make all decisions in a way that only benefits himself. That’s the way unbelievers lead. And that leads us to the second aspect of headship.
2) The
husband is to use his power to serve His wife.
The world’s model of leadership is to rise up in power and leadership so that you can rise up in privilege. The more power you have, the more money, and luxury, and prestige, and perks, and benefits. The Biblical concept of leadership is very different. It’s called servant leadership. Use your power to serve the people you lead. So in marriage, leadership means using your decision-making power to serve the needs and interests of your wife. Use your decision-making power to meet her needs so that she can thrive spiritually, physically, emotionally, relationally, and financially.
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